When he is doing EVERYTHING wrong.

If you begin to feel like your husband is doing everything wrong. RUN to God. Instead of telling your husband all of the things he "should 'of, could 'of" done, tell him you need some alone time with God.

1 PRAY Pour your heart out to God. Tell Him everything you feel and think. Literally, tell God what you are thinking about your husband and all of the wrong things he has done. Give your thoughts to Him. Cry. … Ask God to check your heart. Is it clean? are you right before God? Ask God to work in YOUR heart. If something comes to mind, ask for forgiveness, repent. ... Pray for your husband. Ask God to give him wisdom, courage, spiritual growth, anything and everything you can think of. Bless your husband through prayer. Ask God to bless the work of your husbands hands. To bless his eyes, his mind, thoughts. To bless him as a leader in the family. Pray these things in the name of Jesus.

Jesus said, "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30

2 READ Open your Bible. Read what God puts on your heart. Open your heart to LISTEN to what God wants to tell you. Avoid thoughts as, "if only HE would read this passage, than HE would know." etc. God will be speaking to you here, not to your husband. Your thoughts will be distracting, but try to listen to God's voice through His word.

Continue to listen to God's voice throughout the day and week. Keep your Bible and journal close. Listen to what God has to say through the sermons at church. God may also send you a friend who will tell you words of wisdom. Listen.

"For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart." Hebrews 4:12

"But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you." John 14:26

​"Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up." Deuteronomy 11:18-19

3 THANK Thank God for your husband. Do your best, in this challenging moment, to think of all of the good things in your husband that you are thankful for. Even if you feel he may not deserve your praise. Thank God. Make a list in your journal of all of the good qualities in your husband. Your husband is a GIFT from God. He loves you and truly wants the best for you. He is not perfect, but you are not perfect either. Give thanks to God.

Tell your husband that you respect him because of these things. Do this ONLY IF you can say it without bringing up anything negative. Don't mix the sweet and sour.

"Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is. ... giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another in the fear of God." Ephesians 5:17,20-21.

4 PRAISE Set your mind on praising God. Sing. Thank Him in your prayers. Tell others of God's goodness. Praise Him during church service. God is great! He is worthy of praise. Do this from the heart. If possible, praise God with your husband.

"Praise the Lord! Praise God in His sanctuary; Praise Him in His mighty firmament! Praise Him for His mighty acts; Praise Him according to His excellent greatness! … Let everything that has breath praise the Lord. Praise the Lord!" Psalm 150:1-2,6

"He has put a new song in my mouth— Praise to our God; Many will see it and fear, And will trust in the Lord." Psalm 40:3

"Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him For the help of His countenance." Psalm 42:5

5 WAIT Give it to God. Most likely, your husband already knows what you wish he would change about himself. You've already told him what bothers you. He doesn't need to hear it at a moment when you see him as a failure. Instead, he needs to be encouraged. When everything seems to fall apart, just don't say it. Wait on Him "who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think" (Ephesians 3:20). Allow God to work in your heart as well as your husbands heart. Once you've given it to God, don't interfere. TRUST God.

"Wait on the Lord; Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!" Psalm 27:14

"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass." Psalm 37:4-5

"And those who know Your name will put their trust in You; For You, Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You." Psalm 9:10

Meanwhile... Paul writes,

"Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things." Philippians 4:8

​Vera Likhonin